….sometimes you need to check in with your relationships like a container of milk.  The date on it may still be ok, but often times the sniff-test proves that it’s gone sour.  Time to toss it out.

My friends used to give me a hard time about being the Queen of the Three Month Kill.  But it’s a dating tactic that works for me.  Once you get into the swing of dating somebody somewhat regularly, within that 3 month time frame you tend to see a broader range of that person’s overall personality – their quirks, their depth (if they have any, HA!), their morals (or lack thereof), their dreams, their fears, or whatever.  Either way, I figure that within that time period I can establish if this person is worth keeping around to investigating further or whether it’s time to call it a day and move on.  If it’s a full on relationship that you’re looking for, then why drag it out if you aren’t feeling it?  Unless you’re just there for the shag, then that’s a different story all together.  A post for another day perhaps…

Sometimes in that 3 month period, the person really shows you their true self and your inner self tells you that it’s obvious that it’s just not going to work out.  I would always suggest listening to this little voice – it’s usually right.  It reminds me of a blog post I read a while back from one of my fave go-to bloggers which reminded me of this fact.

Sometimes I’ve ignored this voice and push on anyway, even if the voice was loud and clear.  I’m not entirely sure of why that is, maybe I was trying to give more chances than I typically would, so that I could feel good about the fact that I really tried.  Maybe it was just all too Pollyanna, and it usually ends up biting me in the ass.  And the last thing you want to do to yourself is look back and kill yourself with the “I should have known…” because that’s just going to make you feel worse.

Always trust your instinct.

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